What do you want to talk about?
A preference sheet as the basis for your conversation about consent. You fill it out, share a link, and you talk about it.
Adults only. The items in the sheet are topics for conversation, not instructions. We do not advise, judge or recommend anything.
Fill out, share, talk.
No submitting, no sign-up. The sheet may stay incomplete and grows with you.
Fill out
Go through the catalog and answer what is relevant to you. Every change is saved immediately.
Share
Create a read-only link for exactly one perspective. With an expiry date, revocable at any time.
Talk
The sheet is the beginning, not the result. Together you work out what fits for you.
Three questions, each on its own.
All three are optional and independent, each with its own note. A whole row can be kept to yourself with one click on the eye.
Stance
How do I feel about it?Experience
How much have I experienced?Want to try
Do I want to try it (more)?Active and passive, separately
Giving and receiving often feel different. Where it fits, the sheet separates both directions.
Contexts
As a punishment, something may fit that you would otherwise rather not like. Every context is an answer of its own.
One sheet, many constellations.
With one person you may be different than with another. Perspectives inherit everything from the perspective they build on and only store what differs. You choose the names, there are no fixed roles.
You decide what the other person sees.
Every answer row can be hidden per perspective, including stance, experience and wish. Hidden rows stay visible in your editor and are never delivered to recipients, not even in the PDF.
As little data as possible.
What goes into the sheet is very personal. That is why we only store what the sheet needs, and say openly where the limits are.
No account
Whoever knows the link has access. No email, no password, no profile.
No history
No versions, no snapshots, no change log. Deleting is final.
No trackers
No analytics, no third-party assets, no IP addresses in the database.
Deleted automatically
At most 36 months after the last edit. You can shorten that period at any time.
Links under control
Share links are read-only, individually revocable and optionally expire.
To be honest
Screenshots or transcripts cannot be prevented technically. Only share with people you trust.
Three levels, described factually.
From top-level category to practice to variant. Every entry has a neutral description. What is missing, you add yourself.
Ready for the conversation?
One click creates your sheet. Afterwards, keep the edit link somewhere safe.
Adults only (18+)